1162 Pleasing the Wife

YouTube is full of channels of men giving other men dating advice, an increasing so-called Manosphere where the attributes of masculinity are encouraged and the scourge of feminism derided. Many of these aspiring mentors have been married previously but they are single now and all have an excuse why. After almost a half-century of successful marriage to a woman I met when I was 18, I have some advice so that you don’t have to join the Manosphere: stay married. Outside of downright contempt, where your wife is worse than an enemy, most marriages can continue indefinitely, no-matter-what, if the husband is flexible. First, if your wife’s overweight, encourage her to lose weight: why? Sex. Women don’t care after menopause but men have sex drive all of their lives, and it’s the main reason they got married in the first place. Everything else: companionship, children & convenience are just additional benefits. Second, please the wife. That’s actually pretty easy even though it’s vague: if you’re overweight, lose weight too, then plan interactions: I thought my wife didn't want to go out until I actually took her dancing. Thirdly, compliment your wife’s appearance and insist she wear her attractive clothes & jewelry. These are all simple things that are up to you to initiate because the old adage is indeed true: a happy wife is a happy life.