117 – Origins of shame

(duration 45:59) This is the first episode in our series on the nature of shame. After outlining the basic aspects of shame (i.e., the belief and sense that one is unworthy or flawed in some irredeemable way), we note that its antithesis is self-esteem; so, practicing the six pillars is vital. Shame mainly originates in childhood within the context of family systems, as the book _Facing Shame_ explores. Within traumatizing systems many feelings are not acknowledged and empathized with, since needs are sacrificed, such as respect and self-esteem. Audios are played by therapists Terry Kellogg and John Bradshaw, who explain the ways that shame arises from abuse and neglect in early life, usually coupled with coping strategies of silence and secrecy, as well as addictions. Raising awareness of these costly patterns and learning healthy strategies are parts of the healing and growing process. an enriching NVC conference http://chooseconnection.com https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shame an antidote is the six pillars of self-esteem… http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/03/28/episode-27-the-practice-of-living-consciously/ http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/04/05/28-the-practice-of-self-acceptance/ http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/04/13/29-the-practice-of-self-responsibility/ http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/04/27/30-the-practice-of-self-assertiveness/ http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/05/06/31-the-practice-of-living-purposefully/ http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/05/13/32-the-practice-of-personal-integrity/ Facing Shame: Families in Recovery by Merle A. Fossum, Marilyn J. Mason https://books.google.com/books?id=AvtdCgAAQBAJ Terry Kellogg Dysfunctional Family Shame And Compulsion https://youtu.be/RPsoZBvdTvs John Bradshaw – Healing The Shame That Binds You (Part 1) https://youtu.be/5q2tZa1gp8Q http://www.inspirationalstories.com/poems/to-a-child-christopher-morley-poems/ John Bradshaw – Healing The Shame That Binds You (Part 4) https://youtu.be/TzeGAUGvdX4 We invite you to join our group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthymindfitbody We appreciate your rating and review on iTunes! http://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=332309038 bumper music Kosheen – All in my head (Planet Funk Remix) http://www.kosheen.com