118. The Leaders in Your Life are Not Who You Think with Drew Dudley

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a timely bit of kindness from a stranger or received a compliment or word of encouragement at just the right moment, then you know how these seemingly small acts can lead to a lifetime of impact. Drew Dudley would call those moments ``Everyday Leadership,” and he has some inspiring ideas about how we can all be leaders in the lives of others, right where we are. Sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is simply recognize someone else’s leadership. (00:00- 04:37) OPENING (04:38- 16:39) BOOK: This is Day One There’s no French word for “Leader” and “Leadership” Leader and Leadership are new enough ideas that an entire ancient language does not contain it The word “tweet” in 1980 would mean nothing How a single word transforms the world around us Cultural expectations are way more powerful than rules, policies, and procedures We started to define leadership based on the byproducts, not on the actual behaviors Certain things start to happen when systems start to encode themselves People with power and influence want to actively make sure that other people have less The little things that matter (16:40- 33:42) The influencers The epidemic of mental health problems Our brain is not designed to handle empathy, concern and love for millions of people at the same time How do we manage to live in a village and in a widely interconnected internet world at the same time? Forgive ourselves for having physical, intellectual and emotional capacity Aaron Sorkin How long is a million seconds? There is no world, there are just a billion understandings of it Neil “The Grass” Tyson Good leaders leave their values whenever they get the chance, but great leaders create those opportunities (33:43- 45:49) Leadership and catalyst Every catalyst is a leader, but not every leader is a catalyst Elon Musk Donald Trump Attilâ İlhan Adolf Hitler Ideas that are thoughtful and measured Jordan Peterson Neville Chamberlain (45:50- 59:01) The Leadership Test The word “test” The only test that defines who you is the test you choose to give yourself The human brain hates unanswered questions Six core values: impact, growth, courage, empowerment, class, and self-respect Six questions tied with six core values Prioritizing our to-be list at the same level as our to-do list If 100% of your obligations on a given day are obligations to other people, you’re living a life of obligations A life of service is empowering and sustainable We’re not always in charge of what we get to do everyday, but we’re always in charge of who we are (59:02- 01:02:06) BREAK (01:02:07- 01:20:02) Happiness has to be cultivated Ted Lasso The GOAT- Greatest of all Time Uber driver story- strength has to be cultivated Difference between strength and happiness Podcast Humility is not denying what makes you amazing, humility is recognizing that what makes you amazing doesn’t make you better than other people. (01:20:03- 01:41:58) (01:41:59- 01:42:24)