118. The Pain of Over-Responsibility: Healing from Emotionally Immature Parents

In this solo episode, I’m opening up about one of the most tender and complex parts of my healing journey — growing up with emotionally immature parents and the lifelong impact it can have on our nervous systems, relationships, and sense of self.I share what it’s like to carry the invisible weight of over-responsibility, to be the emotional regulator in your family, and to navigate the guilt and grief that comes with creating space or going no-contact. This isn’t just about cutting people out — it’s about reclaiming your energy, your truth, and your right to feel safe in your own body.If you’ve ever felt torn between loyalty and self-preservation, between being the “good daughter” and finally being honest about how much it’s all costing you — you’re not alone. I’ve been there, and I’m still walking this path.I also talk about what helped me come back to myself and how I support others through this work inside my group program, The Unburdened Heart — for those of us who were never really held in the ways we needed.This one’s for the fixers, the feelers, the hyper-independent women who are so damn tired of holding it all. Let this episode be your permission slip to put it down.❥Join The Unburdened Heart Program: https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heart ❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“There’s a kind of grief that comes when you stop trying to make a broken system love you.”“I spent years trying to be the calm in everyone else’s storm — and abandoning myself in the process.”“You can love someone and still need distance to protect your nervous system.”“I had to learn that taking space isn’t selfish — it’s sacred.”“It’s not my job to carry what my parents never learned to hold.”somatic healing, emotionally immature parents, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, inner child work, family estrangement, grief, fixer identity, boundaries, somatic coaching, Marina Yanai Trainer, The Unburdened Heart, CPTSD recovery, adult children of narcissists, self abandonment healing, trauma-informed care