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EPISODE · Feb 3, 2026 · 14 MIN

119: Avoidant attachment or 🚩Narcissist? 7 OBVIOUS signs how to tell them apart

from The Anxious To Secure PODCAST · host Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach

Grab here your SECURE WOMAN PROTOCOL to not freak out when he pulls away!   Avoidant attachment or narcissist? If you’re anxiously attached and dating someone emotionally unavailable, this question can feel impossible to answer. In this episode, I explain the difference between avoidant attachment style and narcissism, and why anxious partners so often confuse the two. Some behaviors look similar on the surface, but the intention, nervous system response, and emotional capacity underneath are very different.   You’ll learn how to tell: • avoidant attachment vs narcissistic behavior • dismissive avoidant or narcissist in conflict • shutdown vs gaslighting • emotional unavailability vs manipulation • love bombing vs avoidance in early dating • why boundaries reveal the truth quickly   I also explain: • how avoidant attachment is formed • how narcissistic tendencies develop • why anxious attachment is drawn to both • how your body signals emotional safety or danger   If you’ve ever searched: avoidant attachment or narcissist dismissive avoidant or narcissist how to tell if my partner is narcissistic or avoidant relationship red flags anxious attachment dating this episode will give you clarity.   The real question isn’t what label your partner has. It’s whether your nervous system feels safe.. or stuck in a roller coaster of intensity, confusion, and self-doubt.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles and Narcissism 01:05 Conflict 02:19 Attention 04:06 Emotions 04:23 Boundaries 06:02 Early Dating 07:04 Intention 10:14 Upbringing   👇 RESOURCES 👇 💎 Courses ✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts ➞ https://www.julanoelle.com/textanxiety   💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources Free Attachment Library + more offers ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

Grab here your SECURE WOMAN PROTOCOL to not freak out when he pulls away!   Avoidant attachment or narcissist?If you’re anxiously attached and dating someone emotionally unavailable, this question can feel impossible to answer. In this episode, I explain the difference between avoidant attachment style and narcissism, and why anxious partners so often confuse the two. Some behaviors look similar on the surface, but the intention, nervous system response, and emotional capacity underneath are very different.   You’ll learn how to tell:• avoidant attachment vs narcissistic behavior• dismissive avoidant or narcissist in conflict• shutdown vs gaslighting• emotional unavailability vs manipulation• love bombing vs avoidance in early dating• why boundaries reveal the truth quickly   I also explain:• how avoidant attachment is formed• how narcissistic tendencies develop• why anxious attachment is drawn to both• how your body signals emotional safety or danger   If you’ve ever searched:avoidant attachment or narcissistdismissive avoidant or narcissisthow to tell if my partner is narcissistic or avoidantrelationship red flagsanxious attachment dating this episode will give you clarity.   The real question isn’t what label your partner has.It’s whether your nervous system feels safe.. or stuck in a roller coaster of intensity, confusion, and self-doubt.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles and Narcissism01:05 Conflict02:19 Attention04:06 Emotions04:23 Boundaries06:02 Early Dating07:04 Intention10:14 Upbringing   👇 RESOURCES 👇 💎 Courses✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts ➞ https://www.julanoelle.com/textanxiety   💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resourcesFree Attachment Library + more offers➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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