119: Your Attachment Style Isn't a Personality Type with Yolanda Renteria

This week, therapist and Attuned & Attached author Yolanda Renteria joins Amanda to unpack what attachment theory actually says—and why healing has a lot less to do with finding your label than social media wants you to believe.In conversation, we tackle: Why attachment styles aren't permanent personality types (and why that's actually good news) The relationship skill everyone skips: staying through the discomfort of rupture and repair Why setting boundaries can literally make your body feel like it's in danger The surprising difference between attachment and attunement—and why one matters far more than chasing "secure attachment" Why cutting everyone off keeps you from learning who you actually are The uncomfortable truth about why caretakers keep choosing people who need rescuing The question to ask instead of "How do I get them to change?" About Yolanda:Yolanda Renteria is a licensed therapist, relationship expert, and the author of Attuned & Attached. Her work focuses on helping people build healthier relationships through emotional attunement, attachment repair, and nervous system awareness. Learn more at yolandarenteria.com or follow her on Instagram at @thisisyolandarenteria. If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 43 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.