# 12 - Asking for Accommodations vs. Making Excuses: Reclaiming Your Needs Without Apology

Send us Fan MailToday’s episode explores a topic many of you have been asking for: the difference between asking for accommodations and “making excuses,” why these requests feel so vulnerable for autistic women, and how to finally release the fear of being misunderstood.We talk about the early conditioning that taught so many of us to mask, overachieve, and never “need too much,” and why accommodations can feel like failure even when they’re essential. You’ll also hear how psychology, nervous system research, and the neurodiversity movement can help us rethink the stories we’ve been told about our needs—and reclaim a more compassionate, empowered way of advocating for ourselves.If you struggle with shame, self-doubt, or the worry that others will judge your needs, this episode is a soft place to land.Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.If you or someone you know is in crisis or thinking about self-harm, please call or text 988 for support.