12 Days of Giving Day 5: Unfiled Tax Returns, Dementia & $50K in Penalties: Now What?

This is the episode nobody wants to think about… until they’re forced to. Your parent dies, you step in to “help,” and suddenly you find out they haven’t filed tax returns in years. The estate is frozen, the IRS wants their cut, and you’re grieving while also trying to untangle a financial nightmare you didn’t create.In this 12 Days of Giving episode, I’m back with Morgan Q. Anderson, EA, who’s on the front lines of this exact mess. She walks through a real case: two adult children, a mom with advancing dementia, four years of unfiled tax returns, and over $50,000 in penalties and interest slapped on the estate. It took 21 months of fighting with the IRS and the state to fix it. That’s almost two years of grief, stress, sibling tension, and a frozen inheritance while the government waited to get paid. We break down what really happens behind the scenes when a parent quietly stops filing taxes, why dementia and paranoia around money can derail even the most “organized” life, and how quickly families start turning on each other when someone is named executor and the numbers don’t look how everyone expected. This isn’t theory. This is what’s actually happening in families right now.Then we flip it. Morgan and I talk about how to avoid this disaster: why you should almost never make your kid the executor, why a neutral third party can save your family’s relationships, and how to start the brutally honest “Mom/Dad, we need to talk” conversation after the holidays without blowing up Christmas. We also hit what happens if someone dies with no will at all and why “it won’t matter when I’m gone” is one of the most selfish lies older generations tell themselves.This episode is part of our 12 Days of Giving series (12/12–12/23), where we’re dropping one episode a day to give you game you can actually use. If you have aging parents, estranged parents, complicated parents—or you ARE that parent—this one is a must-listen.If this hit home, drop a comment. Tell me where you're feeling it most. I read every single one.New episodes every week on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Subscribe so you never miss a real conversation.