12. Do Our Children Always Know That We Love Them?

Do our kids know we love them… but still not always feel it?Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David take on one of the most sensitive (and real) parenting questions: a parent can be full of love — and a child can still experience “You don’t love me.” How does that happen?Building off last week’s foundation (that a parent’s love can’t be “perfect” in the way we wish it could be), we explore:Why a child’s inner world often works in all-or-nothing terms (“If it’s not 100%, it’s nothing”)How “You hate me” is rarely about facts — and almost always about experienceThe Chassidic idea that inside a “sheker” there can be a spark of truth to redeem (instead of reacting defensively)Why the first move isn’t “fix it” — it’s finding the shoresh (where the feeling is coming from)And we end with a powerful next step for the series: the importance of verbal love — bituy miluli — especially for parents who struggle to express what they deeply feel.A shiur about love, truth, and building a home where children can walk with a real “shield of love”, even when life gets messy.----------For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.comJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_tChapters00:00 Opening & Sponsorship Acknowledgements01:26 Today’s Question: Do Children Feel Our Love?04:39 Three Types of Parental Responses05:51 Why Kids Don’t Always Experience Love08:28 Validating Feelings vs Arguing Facts 09:32 What to Do When a Child Says “You Hate Me”11:15 Find the Source Before Trying to Fix15:24 The Assumption: The Feeling Isn’t “Factually True”17:42 The Spark of Truth Inside a Child’s “Sheker”22:30 Where Real Insight Comes From 23:35 End-of-Life Regrets: Work vs Home 24:45 The Pride of Providing — and What Kids Still Need 26:16 Obligation vs Love (and how kids read it) 28:01 If Love Were “Perfect,” Kids Would Feel It Naturally 33:31 The Weak Spot: Where Kids Find “Proof” You Don’t Love Them 36:47 The “Love Funnel” and Why Leaks Change Everything 43:38 Next Week: The Power of Verbal Love 44:41 Personal Story: A Home of Tears & Expression 45:59 The Airport Handshake Moment 47:12 Why That Handshake Stayed for 20+ Years 48:34 Closing + Hope for the Week