#12: You Are Not a Victim: Reclaiming Your Narrative

In Episode 12 of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we continue the identity-to-empowerment arc by exploring what it means to reclaim your narrative after trauma. Building on the last three episodes—your values, your Bill of Rights, and your Identity Statement—this conversation teaches you how to move from “who I am” to “how I choose to live from that identity.” Drawing from Dr. Jake Porter’s Free to Choose model, we unpack how betrayal trauma hijacks the brain, interrupts choice, and pulls you into a story you never agreed to. You’ll learn the difference between being victimized (which is real and valid) and remaining in the victim position, and how reclaiming nuance, agency, and self-direction allows you to shift from survival narratives like “I’m powerless” into identity-led stories such as “I am discovering my choices” and “This is my story now.”This episode also guides you through a powerful “I used to believe… now I know…” journaling practice, a visioning exercise of your future empowered self, and a grounding exploration of how black-and-white thinking evolves into nuanced clarity during healing. You’ll walk away with renewed awareness, expanded choice, and the reminder that every boundary you set and every truth you claim becomes a line in your new story. If this identity and narrative work is resonating, you’re invited to join the waitlist for Hali’s upcoming course—an intimate, step-by-step journey through values, rights, identity, boundaries, and the healing-centered narrative that will carry you forward. Your next chapter starts now—and you hold the pen.Stay Connected with Me:Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free guide: Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠