#120: How Do I Have Healthy Boundaries And Keep A Good Relationship With My Child?

Caller Jeff's Question: "I have had some short sporadic visits with my son and mostly when he wants something. The other day he came over and wanted to talk about financial support as an adult going off to college. He told me flat-out that I better commit to helping him or he is out of my life for good. He is saying that this is a boundary. I am calling it extortion and manipulation. Even though I am upset by his tone and demands, I will still help him and I can't fault him for his presentations of performance-based love. It is the pattern he has grown up with, he doesn't know any better. Whatever choice I seem to make is one that can't be met with unconditional love. I am surrounded by unspoken expectations and presented with, "do as I say or you're cut off" all the time and I certainly can't make everyone happy. My question is how do I move forward in a healthy way with him that also helps me stand in my own values and doesn't enable him?" Our Radiant Dawn Women's Conference is coming up soon and we have a few more passes available. This higher-level healing event will be life-changing and unforgettable. If you're on the fence about it, make the commitment and join us and 29 other incredible women on an experiential journey of healing and growth. https://radiantdawnconference.com Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events Radiant Dawn Women's Conference: https://radiantdawnconference.com Rising Son Men's Conference: https://risingsonconference.com Couple's Conference TBA We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!