#120: What Happens When ADHD/RSD People-Pleasers Become Moms?

Send us Fan MailToday, Stacey brings you a solo episode to talk to you about what summer break has looked like for this people-pleasing ADHD mom. She talks about how you can learn from her mistakes, and save yourself from burnout, if you, too, struggle with making everybody around your happy all the time - but especially your children. Recap:What happens when people pleasers become moms?We all know the importance of putting up boundaries and teaching your kids to “figure it out” for themselvesBut when you're a people-pleaser you can know this, but still continue to give everything to your children (and leave nothing for yourself)RSD can cause people to overreact to perceive rejection or criticism and people with RSD anticipate the rejection. Every person they meet is somebody new to figure out and then to make happy. Because those of us with RSD struggle so much with boundaries, it can quickly lead to burnoutCurrent parenting philosophies teach us to be “gentle” with our children, but people-pleasers can take this too far A sample day of a mom who is constantly trying to please her kids (a cautionary tale)The difference between Mom and Dad when setting boundaries with their kidsLet's revisit the age-old question: Should I play with my kids? (Check out one of our most popular episodes where we so boldly claimed "We Don't Like Playing With Our Kids.")**CLICK HERE to join the ADHD Moms Club**About Stacey Hutson:Former Chicago-girl, Stacey Hutson, now attempts to live the Colorado life in Golden with her husband and two still slightly helpless daughters, ages 4 and 6. By now she thought she’d be totally immersed in motherhood, happily sitting on the floor “doing voices,” trying desperately to hold on to every precious moment. But instead, she found herself on that same floor reminiscing about the days when she was a writer, an ad girl, a paleo food blogger, and a karaoke superstar. Her nervous system was overwhelmed, her house was a disaster, and she couldn’t understand why she was so nostalgic for her fun, spontaneous pre-mom life. That’s why she created the Mother Plus Podcast with Stephanie Sprenger to give a voice to the too much moms who feel like they are failing at motherhood, and don’t want to fail anymore. Her late ADHD Diagnosis has opened her eyes to the fact that understanding her brain is the key to finally enjoying her motherhood. WHERE TO FIND US NOWConnect with Stacey🎧 The Next Phase Podcast —  on Apple & Spotify 📸 Instagram: @stacehutsonConnect with Steph🎧 The Peri-Normal Podcaston Apple and Spotify✍️ The Reclamation Eraon Substack📝 MidCircle— a writing community for midlife women📸 Instagram: @stephsprenger