#120 Why Survival Mode Might Be Killing Your Relationships

This LOVE IS FEARLESS episode is for you if - You're curious about building a different lifestyle to help you heal or restore a relationship because when you stop to think about it, the lifestyle you're living is based on cultural values, and those values are not helping you enjoy healthy relationships.  You're starting a new relationship. You're ready to admit that you don't treat people who are struggling with kindness and empathy - and that's a sign that you don't really like yourself very much. You are sitting with the idea that seeing yourself differently will help you see others differently. You're good at fighting, controlling, manipulating, staying quiet, not rocking the boat, avoiding conflict…you may also be experiencing worldly success…but your relationships are struggling…even your relationship with yourself.  In this episode, Doug and Janet start a new conversation about Trust For Today - 365 Days of Encouragement, A Year With the Trueface Team. We discuss how reading good books together gives us a word bank that pulls us out of survival mode into thriving mode. One of the distinct differences in our relationship is the conversations we share - specifically, what we talk about…and that we talk a lot!    We both needed to be seen and heard because we'd lived in survival mode for a long time. No wonder God built this new foundation for communication in our marriage. Listen now and linger in these TAKEAWAYS - Survival mode will offer you a lifestyle. It will keep you busy. It may keep your house clean. It may keep your kids on the honor roll and going to church. But it will not benefit your relationships. Only love is a benefit to relationships. Not success. Love happens in a different part of your brain, and we connect with that part when we connect with each other. Survival mode is meant to keep us not dead. It's not meant to bring us to life.  We are created to thrive. Thriving is different from being perfect. When perfection is the goal, we get stuck in survival mode, afraid of messing up. When life is a struggle, connect with God and others…and experience all the bells and whistles of a whole new brain…and new relationships that teach you to like yourself because they don't freak out when you struggle. Thanks for listening and sharing this episode with others. Please visit dicksonthreads.com to find LOVE IS FEARLESS hoodies, sweatshirts, t-shirts, stickers, canvas bags, kitchen towels, and more! Start new conversations that help people fear less because their finding LOVE! Together, there is great hope.