#122 Attaching Pain to Our Problems

Our society has become really good at using softeners, and at making others feel like they have to use them too, really guilt tripping the rest of us to use them so that we don’t make other people feel bad.Big problem!-we’re teaching and spreading victimism—that another person can make us feel something -that we should live in a world where nothing and no one makes us feel uncomfortable or threatened. That’s just not realistic and that philosophy makes us weak and unprepared for life. This is one of the reasons for the failure to launch and why many adults are not behaving as adults.-false idea that we should not feel pain, or conditioning to avoid pain at all costs. Softeners are tranquilizers; they are anesthetics that keep us from improving our lives. Pain can equal progress. In fact pain is the greatest motivator toward progress. But if we are consistently numbing ourselves we won’t change things we NEED to Change Are you fat? Obese? This is not body shaming! It’s body love. This whole life is about maximizing our potential and living in extraordinary life. Our body is our vehicle for life and when we don’t take care of it we are limiting our own lives. The main reason that any of us gets fat is because we don’t control what’s going in our mouths. How have you been treating yourself?How is your marriage, really?How is your parenting? Be painfully honest.How is your financial situation? How is your spiritual state?How are you managing your emotions? Paragraph be painfully honest with yourself in every part of your life. See things as they really are, but not worse than they are.RESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel’s ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Join the 12-Week Habits Challenge for parents of kids 13+Don’t miss out on the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class!Get Greg’s NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Get Rachel’s Extraordinary Family Life PlannerFollow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal