122. The Difference Between Using Willpower and Unlearning Desire for Alcohol with Tony Richardson

On this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick was joined by sober life coach, Tony Richardson. Tony’s relationship with alcohol started when he joined the Royal Australian airforce at just 16 years old. Brought up in a culture where alcohol was the norm, Tony found himself slipping into addiction. Tony began recognising the signs that he might have a problem with alcohol and after a particularly horrendous hangover, he knew something had to change. For 8 years Tony managed to stop drinking using willpower and some of the AA philosophy. He spent those years constantly battling with himself about whether he could drink or not. After hearing about the loss of a good friend, overcome with grief, the willpower Tony had been using was no more. Tony's alcohol use soon went back to it's previous levels and after a few years a chance encounter with a book called This Naked Mind changed his life. Now in his second and final spell of sobriety, Tony is no longe drinking and no longer has the battle or desire too. Join us in this episode to find out how to go from using willpower to completely rewiring your brain. Some of the cool things they talk about - Unhelpful beliefs about not drinking - Willpower is not the enemy - Discovering why you drink instead of shaming yourself - The patriarchy trap - Finding ways to talk as men - Secret drinking - Finding the courage to say you need support - Redefining failure “Alcohol’s the problem, not you” - Tony Richardson Connect with Tony Richardson: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sobertides/ Website: ⁠https://www.sobertides.com/ Connect with Patrick: To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ one hour consultation⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life. Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. You can also join⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Alcohol ReThink Project⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patrickjfox.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook Group (Private):⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject ⁠⁠