122 The Self-Love Myth: Why You're Still Holding Your Breath

Are you still looking for self love?You've done the affirmations. You've tried to "love yourself more." Maybe you've even achieved the body, the goals, the external validation you thought would make you feel enough.But you're still holding your breath. Still monitoring yourself. Still performing acceptability even when you're alone.In this Valentine's Day episode of Rooted in Presence, we explore why self-love isn't enough and what self-belonging actually means.Host Carly Killen shares her journey of holding her stomach in even when no one was watching, the exhausting work of constant self-monitoring, and why achieving "the body" didn't create the internal peace she expected. Through a nervous system lens, she reveals why self-love rhetoric often misses the deeper pattern: we're trying to think our way into belonging when belonging is actually a felt, embodied experience.You'll discover:Why self-love affirmations don't address nervous system patternsHow holding your breath signals danger to your body (even when you're safe)The gap between external validation and internal belongingWhy self-monitoring is protection, not vanityHow conditioning teaches women that belonging is conditionalThe difference between self-love and self-belongingPractical nervous system tools to soften chronic self-criticismBreathwork practices for coming home to your bodyThis episode is for anyone exhausted from people-pleasing, recovering from chronic achievement culture, or sensing that positive thinking alone won't create the shift you're seeking. If you've tried self-love and it hasn't landed, this conversation offers a different path.Topics: self-love myth, self-belonging, nervous system regulation, people pleasing recovery, body image midlife, breath and anxiety, internal validation, embodied self-acceptance, chronic self-monitoring, conditional belonging Thanks for listening to Rooted In PresenceIf you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:📧 Email: [email protected]📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoachDo you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.👉 Click here to learn more and access today🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected] you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨