122. When the "Why" is Useful

In this podcast episode, we discuss the usefulness of asking "why" questions. I begin by explaining how our brains naturally gravitate towards asking why, as it keeps us in a state of questioning ourselves and our circumstances. However, constantly asking why can lead to confusion and hinder our ability to move forward. I use an analogy of being on a boat in the middle of a lake to illustrate how asking why can keep us stuck and prevent us from taking action. They describe how certain emotions, such as confusion, worry, and overwhelm, can act like a fog that keeps us comfortably sitting in the boat without having to put in the effort to row towards our goals. We then dive into specific examples of unhelpful why questions, such as asking why certain things happen or why we feel a certain way. These questions only lead to more questioning and judgment of ourselves and our circumstances. I emphasize that while these emotions may feel indulgent, they do not serve us in moving forward. On the other hand, we highlight the importance of asking the question "what is my why?" or understanding our purpose. This type of why question propels us forward and helps us focus on what we want to create in the future. Examples of useful why questions include wanting to make a difference for others, transforming oneself, or aligning with who we want to be. We conclude the podcast episode by acknowledging that we may not always have the answers to why questions about our past actions or experiences. However, having a clear understanding of our purpose can provide motivation and guidance in challenging times. The importance of our values help determine our why and how we show up in the world.   Website | Instagram | Facebook   Get the Full Show Notes HERE   Free Training for Preparing Missionaries:  Change Your Mission with this One Tool   Free Video Series:  3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home   Free Guide:  5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary   Free Strategy Call:   Click Here