123. Discovering your true self through inner confidence

Discover your TRUEST self in the midst of BECOMING You…(the method that transformed my life) Not feeling good enough has been a real life struggle for so many, myself included and the biggest reason is because we have a belief that if we were to just become confident enough we would feel good enough. There was a time when I believed that my confidence came from how I felt when I looked in the mirror or how I would walk, stand or present myself to the world.I felt like for a long time I was my own worst enemy. I would tear myself apart whenever I would look at myself in the mirror and see fat, stretch marks or excess skin/wrinkles. I would buy new clothes as motivation to lose weight, I would eat very little or over exercise, basically I was unbalanced in how I treated myself which became a cycle of more insecurity. This has proven, in my own experience, to be false confidence. This illusion of feeling good because we look good but when we don’t look good we feel bad can cause us to feel like we’re not enough. We think we need compliments and validation from the outside so that we can feel good enough and when that doesn’t happen we feel upset, doubtful and insecure. We think that confidence is the answer because if we at least look confident or feel confident then that must mean we’re good enough, so we start a journey of personal development, affirmations, journaling and all the other things society says will help but we still feel not good enough. Good news is that It’s not your fault and we can change this belief. We have been conditioned and taught that confidence looks like a super model or a prominent leader or actor. The dictionary describes confidence as “the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. A feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities and the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.” This kind of confidence requires some shifting to take place within our own mind, to unwire what has become familiar and learn to rewire a new idea of confidence to be familiar with so that we can access the ability to care for ourselves and others from a place of love and appreciation, living as our truest self. When I began implementing REAL self love I BECAME confident, I didn’t just look confident, it was a part of me. I felt a deeper connection in my relationship with God, myself, my family and others. I gained the strength to overcome my tendency to do things to please those around me to make them happy, but instead BECAME my truest self. For questions or topic ideas email me at [email protected] attn: podcast listener