123 | How to Overcome People Pleasing, Self Abandonment, and Good Girl Syndrome with Sara Fisk

In today’s episode, we talk about how to overcome people pleasing, self abandonment, and good girl syndrome. As women, we’re taught from a very young age that our value is found in what we do for others. We’re taught to give and to serve, self-sacrifice, and do it ALL with a smile on our face. We lack the inner knowing that ‘I am good’ is actually separate from WHAT we do - whether that’s in the home, in our career, at church, etc.Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who has a passion for teaching and coaching. She teaches women how to tame the rampant people pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency that causes them so much frustration and resentment. Sara understands that people pleasing really is the plague of womanhood, because it robbed her of time, energy, and effort for far too long. After growing up in a very conservative, religious environment, she found herself always looking for others’ approval, and questioning her worth. Sara eventually learned that yes, she was (and IS) ‘enough’, and she doesn’t need anyone’s stamp of approval to have a fulfilling and empowering life!In this episode, ​​we cover:Sara’s journey with people pleasing + how it led her to the work she does todayHow the church & religion influences women + the way they show up in the worldWhat people pleasing looks like from a young age + what happens when it starts to feel like a burdenWhy both people pleasing and not people pleasing is uncomfortable + how to process the discomfort that comes with not people pleasingHow to ‘find’ yourself again when you feel completely lost in motherhoodHow to have those ‘tough’ conversations with those around you when you’re done with people pleasingRedefining what it actually means for you to be a ‘good mom’Internal Family Systems + how we can connect to this and move past people pleasingBe sure to hit subscribe so you never miss the latest episode!Connect with Sara:Check out Stop People Pleasing: Holiday Edition (workshop & coaching experience)Download her free guide: How to Have a Difficult ConversationFollow on Instagram and FacebookJoin her free Facebook communityCheck out her websiteFollow on TikTokListen to The Ex-Good Girl PodcastSubscribe to her YouTube channelConnect with on LinkedInConnect with Emily:Follow on Instagram and FacebookJoin my email listCheck out my websiteConnect with on LinkedInSome links referenced below are affiliate links which means I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you for your support!Resources & Links:No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzGood Inside by Dr. Becky KennedyGather in Growth Sponsorship InquiryBook me as a speaker for your next eventGather in Growth podcast produced by: Jill Carr PodcastingMentioned in this episode:Join Emily and Kelsey Anderson for VeilFall, an intimate Samhain and Full Hunter’s Moon women’s retreat happening October 23–26, 2026, at Blue Star Retreat Center in Columbia Falls, Montana, near Glacier National Park. Click below to explore the full retreat experience and register: VeilFall