124 ~ Surviving Coercive Control: Lauren Trevan’s Story of Abuse and Healing

Hayley sits down with Lauren Trevan to share the truth behind 16 years of coercive control, emotional abuse, and the devastating revelations that changed her life forever.Lauren reflects on who she was at just 18 when she met her husband at their sporting club, how quickly the relationship unfolded, and the subtle red flags she didn’t recognise at the time. She opens up about how jealousy, surveillance, financial control, and emotional manipulation slowly crept into every part of her life, leaving her isolated, exhausted, and trapped.She bravely shares what it was like to discover that the man she married had been abusing young girls, how the victims’ courage helped her finally see the reality of her own situation, and how everything she had normalised suddenly made sense. Lauren speaks candidly about navigating criminal proceedings, the retraumatising family court system, and fighting for safety and custody for her children.Now the author of Now I See You, Lauren is committed to breaking the silence around domestic and family violence. She also shares her work with DV Safe Phone, highlighting how access to something as simple as a safe phone can be life-changing for someone trying to escape abuse.This episode is for anyone who has ever questioned their reality, felt unseen, or wondered if things could ever get better. Lauren’s story is one of heartbreak, courage, truth, and rebuilding proof that even after profound trauma, healing and hope are possible.If you or someone you love is experiencing abuse or trying to heal from it here are some support links : 🇦🇺 AustraliaSexual Assault Crisis Line : 1800-806-2921800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic and Family Violence Counselling Service: 1800 737 732 (24/7)Lifeline Australia – Crisis Support and Suicide Prevention: 13 11 14 (24/7)Kids Helpline – Counselling for young people aged 5–25: 1800 55 1800 (24/7)Blue Knot Foundation – Support for adult survivors of childhood trauma: 1300 657 380Beyond Blue – Mental health support: 1300 22 4636 (24/7)🌍 International/GlobalRAINN (U.S.) – Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network: 1-800-656-4673 (24/7) or rainn.orgCrisis Text Line – Free 24/7 text support in the U.S. & internationally: Text HOME to 741741Suicide Stop (Worldwide Hotlines Directory): suicidestop.com/onlineUnited KingdomSamaritans UK – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7)NAPAC – Support for adult survivors of childhood abuse: 0808 801 0331CanadaTalk Suicide Canada – Call or text 988 (24/7)Canadian Centre for Child Protection: protectchildren.caNew ZealandLifeline New Zealand: 0800 543 354 or free text 4357 (HELP)Safe to Talk – Sexual harm helpline: 0800 044 334💙 As mentioned in the episode, You can book into Jessica Ella's Trauma Therapy clinic ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and can also follow on socials : ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jess' IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aaruka's IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. I also Interviewed Jess in episode 113 of Before You Bloom 💙💗 Thank you so much for being here on this adventure with me! 💗- Hayley xo✨ Find us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@beforeyoubloom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠✨💜 Our ⁠⁠⁠Website ⁠⁠⁠and ⁠⁠⁠Products ⁠⁠⁠💜 🎧⭐ Follow us on :⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⭐ Follow us on :⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Before You Bloom Podcast is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin Nation. I would like to recognise their continuing connection to land, water, and culture and pay my respects to their elders past, present, and emerging, and any Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people listening today.