124: Sustaining the Therapist Self: Values-Based Self-Care and Why Your Netflix Binge Isn't Working with Lorain Moorehead

In this episode of A Simple Therapy Podcast, Sindee Gozansky welcomes Lorain Moorehead, LCSW—psychotherapist, clinical supervisor, EMDR consultant, and host of the Self Careapist Therapist Podcast—for a conversation about burnout, perfectionism, and why most therapists are doing self-care all wrong. Lorain shares how she reverse-engineered her own self-care after realizing her TV binges left her feeling worse, not better. Together, Sindee and Lorain explore how childhood wounds of "be the role model" drive our over-functioning, why competitive athletes can't just "work out" and feel restored, and the difference between self-care that fills you up versus self-care you think you're supposed to do. Lorain breaks down her detective approach to finding what actually restores you and why video supervision is the most powerful (and most avoided) tool for growth. This conversation is full of real examples, practical tools, and permission to stop doing self-care that doesn't work for your system. Lorain's warmth reminds us that sustaining ourselves as therapists means knowing what truly replenishes us, embracing imperfection, and getting curious about what actually resonates—not what we're told should.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​   01:18 - Meet Lorain Moorehead: Therapist, Supervisor, and Self Careapist  03:22 - How a Book About Bellevue Led to a Career in Mental Health  06:32 - Early Experience: From Retirement Homes to Twin Research Labs  09:10 - The Self Careapist Model: Reverse Engineering Self-Care That Works  12:16 - Values-Based Self-Care vs. What You Think You Should Do  16:27 - Rest Can Be Values-Driven Too: Puzzles, Patterns, and Repetition  20:18 - Perfectionism, High Achievement, and Childhood Wounds  24:27 - The "Role Model" Trap: When Fun Feels Like Failure  30:25 - Supervision as Development: Beyond Just Meeting Requirements  37:44 - The Power of Video: Why Watching Yourself Is the Best Teacher  44:15 - Podcasting as Connection: The Self Careapist Origin Story  47:58 - Final Message: Examine Your Self-Care with Hope and Curiosity Check out Berries: Berries Referral Link: heyberries.com/?via=heart-centered Use Discount Code: Sindee50 for $50 off your first month Shop Mental Health Threads: https://mentalhealththreads.etsy.com   Connect with Lorain Moorehead: Lorain Moorehead Self Care Worksheet The Self Careapist Therapist Podcast | Apple Podcast Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Connect with Sindee Gozansky: Visit my website: asimpletherapypodcast.com/ Join the Heart-Centered Therapist Community FB group: facebook.com/groups/478651669638167 Instagram: 
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