126: Forgiveness - Why Its NOT About Other Person

Forgiveness has a branding problem. People hear the word and think it means letting someone off the hook, pretending harm didn’t happen, or walking back into a relationship that still isn’t safe. We don’t buy that. We frame forgiveness as an intentional release of resentment and blame that loosens the restriction around your heart and gives your nervous system a chance to exhale.We dig into what forgiveness is not: it’s not justice, it’s not denial, and it’s not reconciliation. We talk about severity and why nobody gets to judge what “should” hurt you, plus why forcing a confrontation can be a slippery slope. Then we shift into the real cost of holding on, how anger becomes “glasses” you wear all day, and how memory and rumination keep replaying old footage in the brain. We also name the upside that’s possible when you choose healing: post-traumatic growth, stronger boundaries, clearer communication, and a life that feels lighter.The biggest turn is self-forgiveness. We get honest about shame, guilt, cultural and religious conditioning, and the survival habit of turning pain inward. We lean on self-compassion as the bridge and offer simple practices you can try today: journaling prompts, cleaning things up directly when it’s appropriate, writing yourself a love letter, and letting movement and nature help your body release what your mind keeps gripping.If this conversation hits home, subscribe, share it with someone who needs relief, and leave a review so more people can find it. What’s one thing you’re ready to set down today?Send us Fan Mail Follow Coach Polly @getbusythriving and Coach Sam @thesamanthapruitt Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/everydayawesomeprojectFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/everydayawesomeprojectLinktree for ALL THE THINGS: https://linktr.ee/everydayawesomeprojectWebsite/About Us: https://everydayawesomeproject.com/about-us/