127. Addicted parents, trauma and healing with Denita Bremer

This week on The Alcohol ReThink podcast Patrick was joined by Denita Bremer. Denita is a shame and trauma coach for latter-day saint women. Denita was born to teen parents who had struggles with drugs and alcohol. In response to the trauma in her upbringing Denita developed a coping mechanism which was to be a ‘good learner’. In this episode we discuss the impact of being brought up by parents with addiction, how she survived, the impact that had later in life and how she healed those traumas which led her to create the work she does in the world now.  Some of the cool things they talk about in this episode are: - Underage drinking & having conversations around it - How our upbringing influences our own parenting styles (positively and negatively) - The importance of connection and the impact of being emotionally absent - How we form (false) beliefs in childhood that play out in later life - “The strengths that got you here are now holding you back” - How we use alcohol and drugs as an attempt to self-soothe and regulate - Working through trauma - Cultivating compassion for yourself and your past - Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional  Connect with Denita: Website: https://denitabremer.com/ Podcast: Regulated and restored Connect with Patrick: To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ one hour consultation⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life. Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. You can also join⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Alcohol ReThink Project⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patrickjfox.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook Group (Private):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject ⁠⁠⁠