127: Why People Pleasing Is Ruining Your Life (And Why It’s NOT Self-Care)

If you’ve ever said yes so fast that your chest tightened before the words even finished leaving your mouth? This episode is the wake-up call your people pleasing, burnout prone, high achieving self didn’t even realize you needed. Because what if feeling overwhelmed isn’t a you problem at all? What if you’ve just been trained to put everyone else first? Today we’re unpacking the real reason people pleasing feels automatic — and why it hits ambitious women the hardest. You’ll learn how many high-achieving women were conditioned from childhood to be the helpful one, the agreeable one, the easy one… and how that conditioning secretly shapes your adult relationships, career, and self-worth. We talk about: chronic burnout resentment identity loss and how over-functioning keeps you stuck in cycles you didn’t choose Because being the strong friend might look admirable… but it’s quietly draining your energy, your confidence, and your peace. Ericka breaks down the subtle signs — like overexplaining, guilt resting, emotional shape-shifting, and taking responsibility for everyone’s feelings — that reveal whether self-abandonment has become your default mode. You’ll learn my signature tools, including: the 10-Second Pause the Soft No the Power of the Period first-30-minute protection calendar boundaries and the peace test These are simple, realistic self-care practices designed for ambitious women who want to honor their capacity without guilt. Because let’s be honest — some folks will not know what to do when the “yes girl” starts saying “no.” HUEL: Try Huel with 15% off at huel.com/bossbabe with code BOSSBABE. If you loved the episode, please leave a 5-star rating and review — it helps the show grow and helps more high achievers break free from burnout and people-pleasing. Come hang out with me on Instagram for daily self-care hacks, confidence boosts, boundary tips, and behind-the-scenes vibes: 👉 @theerickanicole / @bossbabereset This podcast is produced by @yourgirlmedia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Ready to build the business that replaces your 9-to-5? Join us inside the Clocked Out Collective at start.clockedout.media.Free 5-Minute TrainingEvery woman I know who successfully built a business while working a 9-to-5 followed the same four steps — and almost all of them tried to skip step one.So I created a free 5-minute training specifically for the woman who is still clocking into work every day while trying to build something bigger on the side.➡️ Watch the free training here👀 Join the Clocked Out Collective ClockedOUT is a business and productivity podcast for the high-achieving female entrepreneur building a side hustle while working a 9-to-5. Each week we deliver business building tips, work-life balance and self-care strategies, and real talk on hustle culture so you can grow your business, hit new revenue milestones, and beat burnout while still on payroll.Follow us on Instagram: @clockedout.media