129 Trigger Warning!: Pt. 3: Why We Get Upset and Reactive and What To Do About It

All human beings have five core "wants." These are deep, fundamental emotional needs and they're universal. They aren't bad or wrong, they're human. No matter who you are, we all want security, approval, control, connection, and freedom.   Here's the premise in this 5-part series: Whenever we feel triggered, upset or reactive, it's not because of what's happening on the surface, meaning, it's not about what someone has said or done, nor is it about circumstances or conditions not being to our liking.   No, if we dig a little deeper, we find that we're triggered because one or more of our core wants are not being met. And when that happens, we feel triggered, and that leads to drama and great difficulty in our relationships, intimate or otherwise.   If we want to experience healthy, harmonious relationships, and have any degree of inner peace, we must learn how to handle ourselves when we feel triggered, and that's what this 5-part series is all about.   In this episode, which is part three of a five-part series, Roy addresses the third core want: Control. We all want to feel in control and that we are and will be OK, but too often we don't. Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.