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EPISODE · Apr 10, 2026 · 39 MIN

S1 Ep13: 4 steps to avoid defensiveness from hurting communication in your relationship – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 3

from The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast · host Mark Usher | Relationship Coach for Husbands

Do you want to know why most communications in relationship end up with a fight? This happens when unchecked criticism and defensiveness rule interactions with your partner. What comes first? Does feeling always criticised by your partner cause you to be defensive? Or is your default defensiveness that causes your partner to up the volume of their criticism? The answer is: both. Criticism and defensiveness will bring more and more conflict between husband and wife to the point of every communication ending with a fight or stonewalling. In this episode we are sharing the 4 steps that will help any couple to transform the way they communicate, eradicating the need to get defensive and creating more emotional intimacy and connection.Chapters: 00:00:00 Understanding defensiveness00:01:34 How defensiveness impacts communications00:04:51 Childhood trauma and the cycle of criticism00:09:25 The 4 steps that will change everything00:14:49 The transformative power of owning your inner state and resistance00:18:50 Using mirroring and labelling to disarm resistance00:29:19 Implement these actions to achieve change00:36:58 Empower your marriage with these communication tools Related episodes:Ep11: 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act – Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1Ep 11 You Tube videoEp 12: How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Ep 12 YouTube videoTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching

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