13 | Are You a People Pleaser? Learn the Surprising Reason Why It's Holding You Back

In this episode, host Cecilia Manella explores the topic of people-pleasing and how it can hinder our ability to express our needs in relationships. She discusses the origins of people-pleasing, its impact on our sense of self, and the importance of building authentic connections. Cecilia provides practical tips on breaking the pattern of people-pleasing and embracing vulnerability in order to foster deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Key Takeaways: People-pleasing is an adaptive coping skill that can stem from childhood or develop in adulthood as a way to gain love, belonging, and approval. People-pleasing involves sacrificing one's own needs and desires to prioritize the needs of others, leading to a disconnection from oneself and a lack of boundaries. It is essential to acknowledge and accept that everyone has needs, both basic and complex, and to create space for them in relationships. Breaking the pattern of people-pleasing requires starting slow, being patient, and embracing vulnerability by sharing needs and desires, even if it feels uncomfortable or messy. Overthinking and striving for perfection are common pitfalls of people-pleasing, and it is important to let go of these tendencies and allow for imperfection in expressing needs. Trusting the other person in the relationship and understanding that they may not always be able to meet our needs without it being a rejection of our whole selves is crucial. Needs are not constant and evolve over time, so it is necessary to communicate and update them as they change, fostering emotional intimacy and authenticity in relationships. Additional Resources: Learn about a gratitude practice - Episode 1: Cultivating Gratitude Submit your question: Submission Form Let's get social Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mentalmakeoverradio/  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mentalmakeoverradio