#13 Failure

Welcome to Men on Fire, a podcast about what it means to be a man. All right, mate, How are you? Welcome to do that thing in the beginning. Yeah. You realise who that voice is, don't you? No. No, it sounds like some. So I tried various slight things, and like a lot of them, we tried tested a couple of new. And lot of them sound like robot voice. That's actually Father Christmas, right? The verified Father Christmas? No, not even an AI father Christmas voice. And I just thought it sounded like a very wise man that.  Father Christmas would definitely be modern.  Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's  Jeff Bezos. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The modern Father Christmas. Yeah, yeah, It feels like it at our house. The things that showed up around Christmas time and. Yeah, Yeah, well, we're living it. Yeah. How are you, mate? Yeah, not bad, mate, but Holiday. With the pump. We flew into Exeter and about 20 minutes before we landed. There were floods in Exeter, so we had to fly on to Bristol. Oh yeah. Which it was my. Was that on the Sunday? Thursday. Oh, Thursday. A young son's first trip abroad and fly at home. So we then had to land and then they said they were going to arrange taxis. And I'm thinking like, I've got an Exeter perspective. Like that's going to take four, four hours for taxis to come and go. But actually it was Bristol, so they had like a massive fleet. Yeah. Yeah. Half hour or so. Yeah, it's all good. It's one of those. I think we were talking about it last week at the.  That's all practice of gratitude. Mike spoke of our need before. I've heard about a law trying to remember. Yeah, but it's so easy to slip. But it's also so important because I was on holiday and it's Greece, you know, it's lovely. But there's. There's bits that are not kind of what we're after. All this stressful things that happen on holiday. Yes, it's fairly standard and you're kind of on only ten days or she can't count quality food to get her higher comfort bed. Yeah. And then the minute I woke up my own bed as I  was back in Greece. Yeah. The hot sun. Yeah. And it pulled back. I'm waiting on a beach. Yeah, no worries. And just the worry being like planning which taverna you're going to eat.  Me. Thoughts for lunch? Yeah. Back at work. Now, holidays are on double edged sword, really. You know, it's good to have that wine down that break. But, you know. Yeah, you think you realize when you get home how lucky you are. But yeah it's not always easy is that people think our holiday break away but it's so they're a different country, different craft and different culture, different things and it's not always easy. And in my practice, gratitude are what Brian is now saying. Yeah me you now publicly moaning that you've gone on a date to Greece and there's probably people that I'm not at all day that takes years. So again, that kind of cycle of gratitude and gratitude is constantly. Yeah, yeah. So what we're talking about today, um, it came up, one of the guys, um, a good friend of mine was looking around for ideas and stuff just like that. He set up a really good Facebook group. People, you know, blokes who like sitting around fires. Jane Which is kind of like one of our successes. Yeah, yeah, definitely. Definitely. But one of the subjects he wanted us to have a look at was failure. Yeah, the other side. And we've looked at sass and motivation and being motivated and things and it's, I think it's good to look at what happens when things aren't quite going right. And what happens then? Do you let it knock you? Do you learn from it? You know, there's lots of, um, of ways of going. Guess it depends where you are as a person. I think, you know, sometimes I feel, you know, if when things aren't going right, I can't. Yeah. Makes everything else hard to deal with. Other times when I'm really focused, I say, All right, that hasn't worked. I'm going to try this and see if that works and learn from that failure that how how you deal with fa