13. It ain't your fault you hate videos

In an AI age, being visible ain't an option... unless you wanna end up broke working in Greggs.If you want paying clients, you have to build trust, which means showing up, showing your face and talking on camera.Now whilst that might send shivers down your spine, you are forgiven for having this fear.Your dislike of videos or any sort of public speaking for that matter isn't your fault. Society's done a real number on you.You've been charged a "don't-be-too-much" tax your whole life. School, magazines, parents, society... all drip-feeding the same message: shrink, stay quiet, don't show off. No wonder showing up on camera feels terrifying. It's not weakness. It's decades of conditioning. And once you see it for what it is, you can start undoing it.In this episode, I'm joined by brand photographer and visibility strategist Abi Moore, and we are getting into it. We're talking about why so many brilliant women are hiding online, why selling feels icky when it really doesn't have to, and why the thing standing between you and your next client probably isn't your skills... it's your silence.Here's what we cover:🧠 Why your fear of showing up isn't a personality flaw... it's a billing errorYou didn't arrive at this fear on your own. It was built into you. And understanding that is the first step to undoing it.🎯 Why trying to appeal to everyone is killing your chancesYou are not a beige wall. Niche down, speak directly, and the right people will find you already half sold before they've even said hello.📹 Why done beats perfect... every single timeAccept it'll go wrong. Expect to forget your words. Do it anyway. Imperfect visibility beats perfect silence. Nobody didn't hire you because your hair was a bit flat.If you've been telling yourself you'll start showing up properly once everything's a bit more polished, a bit more ready, a bit more whatever... this episode is your sign to stop waiting.Go find Abi:📸 Instagram: @abbymooreuk💼 LinkedIn: Abby Moore BrandingGET IN TOUCH Message me at [email protected] Follow me on Instagram Connect with me on LinkedIn Watch this podcast on YouTube