#13: Relationship with Yourself with Richa Thapa, MD

TRIGGER WARNING: In the episode we briefly discuss abusive relationships. This is NOT meant to victim-shame. This does not apply to children. This is more a discussion of adults, with resources, who willingly choose to stay in relationships with no resemblance to anything they’d wish for another person they love. If you are currently in an abusive relationship, please work directly with a local mental health professional specializing in abuse, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233), or text SMART to 88788. As always, this podcast does not establish a doctor-patient relationship. It is for general educational purposes only.   In this episode, we again speak again with our favorite psychiatrist, Dr. Richa Thapa, about our most important relationship: the relationship we have with ourselves. It is the foundation for all of our other relationships. You’ll hear: How your relationship with yourself determines how you treat yourself, how you allow others to treat you, what you tolerate, what you keep going back to…and many times this is unconscious Options for uncomfortable interactions with consultants, etc. Setting and enforcing boundaries How Dr. Thapa’s relationship with herself changed after a devastating diagnosis Encouragement for others who have recently received bad news   Quotables: “You want to fix your marriage. You want to fix your relationship with your children. You think it’s the relationship that you have to work on, but it’s what’s inside.” “Where’s your parental, mama bear/papa bear instinct FOR YOURSELF?” “I am still that young child that doesn’t need to be talked to like that. From even myself, ESPECIALLY from myself. I can’t escape my own voice. That’s the one I can’t escape.” “I think the key with boundaries is following through.” “Something shifted inside of me at some point. It was like, I gotta be my own friend.” “Treat yourself like a friend.” “We can do hard things, and this can be the catalyst you need for creating the life you want. Because you take action when you realize that life is short. At least that was my experience.” “In every situation, we either win or we learn.”   Recommended resources: To reach out to Dr. Thapa: richawellness.squarespace.net For help with domestic violence, contact a mental health professional or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233), or text SMART to 88788.   If you want to work with us, visit our website: www.thewholephysician.com. We have private coaching and CME courses available. Additionally, we're happy to lecture for your institution. Sign up for our Weekly Well Check by clicking the link. The Weekly Well Check is your weekly dose of encouragement and your only access to secret insider sales on our products. If you'd like something you can use today, download our free Top 10 Mindset Hacks for Doctors here.   For a free quote on Own-Occupation Insurance, you're welcome to use our affiliate link: patternlife.com/drivetime