13. You Lost Yourself in That Marriage. Here's How You Find Her Again.

For years, you were the wife, the mother, the planner, the one who kept everything running. Then the marriage ended, and a question showed up that you weren't ready for: who are you without that role? In this episode, Raquell breaks down how women quietly lose touch with themselves inside a marriage and walks through the real, unglamorous process of reconnecting with the woman who was there all along. Not through dramatic reinvention, but through small, deliberate choices that bring you back to yourself.In this episode, we cover:The quiet signs you've lost touch with yourself Why "reconnection" is the right word, not "finding yourself" The "before marriage" list — an exercise for identifying who you were before the roles took over, and noticing which threads are still true nowThe practice of asking yourself what you want in small, daily ways Why rebuilding female friendship and community isn't a nice-to-have after divorce — it's infrastructureRaquell's own experience of reconnecting with friends eight years post-divorce, and what it means to make decisions that are hers aloneThis week's assignment: do one thing simply because you want to — not because it's productive, not because it serves anyone else. Notice how it feels. That feeling is the thread to follow.Ready for more than encouragement?If you need structure, strategy, and a clear picture of your next moves, my 90-minute Divorce Strategy Call is the place to start. We'll map out exactly where you are, what decisions are in front of you, and what your clearest next step actually is.https://herdivorceacademy.com/program/book-a-coaching-fit-callHave a question? Ask here! HerdivorceacademyDivorce HotlineConnect with Raquell on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/herdivorceacademy/Have a Dear Raquell question you want answered on the podcast?📩 Email your anonymous story to [email protected]