130: Attachment Styles Aren’t Permanent (And How to Change Yours)

In this episode, Lilly explores how attachment styles—shape our relationships. Instead of labeling yourself as one specific style, she encourages seeing attachment as a continuum. The episode emphasizes that while attachment styles are formed in childhood, they can be changed through awareness and inner child work.Key Points:Attachment Styles as a Continuum: Avoidant, anxious, and secure are points on a spectrum, not fixed labels.Labels as Limiting: Labels can be used to justify unhealthy behaviors; it's better to view attachment styles with curiosity and growth in mind.Childhood Influence: Your attachment style is shaped by early experiences with caregivers but can be changed through self-awareness.Secure Attachment: Formed through consistent, responsive caregiving. It leads to trusting relationships, self-esteem, and emotional sharing.Anxious Attachment: Results from inconsistent caregiving, leading to fear of abandonment and distress in relationships.Avoidant Attachment: Develops when needs are neglected, causing emotional distance and intimacy issues.Self-Awareness for Change: Understanding why you've developed certain attachment tendencies helps heal and change those patterns.Actionable Insight: Inner child work is the key to healing attachment wounds and moving toward secure attachment.Go Deeper:Subscribe to Relearn Relationships on Substack for clarity questions and action steps on attachment styles.www.relearnrelationships.comFounding members get a 60-minute Relationship Strategy session with Lilly to explore their attachment style and move towards secure attachment. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.relearnrelationships.com Get full access to Growth Over Easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe