130: How to Break Trauma Bonds and Create Secure Love | Nima Rahmany

In this episode of A Simple Therapy Podcast, Sindee Gozansky sits down with Nima Rahmany to explore how to break trauma bonds, heal codependency, and create secure love. Together, they unpack the roots of relationship triggers, the anxious-avoidant dynamic, the often-overlooked fawn response, and how unresolved trauma shapes adult relationships. Nima shares his personal healing journey and explains what it really means to become trigger-proof—not avoiding triggers, but learning to regulate, repair, and respond differently. This conversation is especially valuable for therapists and anyone working to heal attachment wounds, stop toxic relationship patterns, and build emotionally safe, secure connection. 00:49 - Meet Nima Rahmany 05:03 - How a Trauma Bond Begins: The Co-Rescuing Operation 10:45 - The Drama Triangle and the Anxious-Avoidant Trap 15:00 - A Note for Therapists Who Won't Touch It 20:48 - The Fawn Response: The Most Insidious Attachment Strategy 22:43 - The Villain's Journey and Integrating Shame 25:54 - Writing the Book for His Son 28:00 - Trauma Is Not What Happened—It's What Happens Inside 31:17 - Triggers as Portals: The Trigger-Proof Model 32:56 - What to Do If You're Stuck in Your Relationship 36:27 - Find a Guide Who's Living It 40:22 - Connect With Nima at becometriggerproof.com​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Check out Berries: Berries Referral Link: heyberries.com/?via=heart-centered Discount code: Sindee50 for $50 off your first month   Shop Mental Health Threads: https://mentalhealththreads.etsy.com   Connect with Dr. Nima Rahmany: becometriggerproof.com/ https://www.instagram.com/nimarahmanyofficial/  https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof/ https://www.youtube.com/user/chironimz   Connect with Sindee Gozansky: Visit my website: asimpletherapypodcast.com/ Join the Heart-Centered Therapist Community FB group: facebook.com/groups/478651669638167 Instagram: 
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