#132 | The Blind Spot in Modern Dating - Why People Struggle

In this episode I highlight the pervasive heteropessimism that exists in the culture today (on both sides of the aisle). Inspired by this recent article written by Mana Afsari - https://thepointmag.com/examined-life... I dive into one of the blind spots I see happening in dating: categorical thinking. I wrote a short piece about this - find it here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-... Listen in to learn about what categorical thinking looks like and how we’ve decoupled humanity from the opposite sex. I also link this idea to the historical example of what was happening in the Weimer Republic in Germany 100 years ago and how today's struggles can be an analogue to that time (inspired by https://www.louiseperry.co.uk/p/weima...) One thread I’d like to continue to pull on is how to separate romantic love and pair bonding. Romantic feelings won't get people to their gold wedding - this is an important piece of the conversation.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro02:18 — Setting up the main idea04:42 — Where people misunderstand this07:05 — The emotional dynamic at play09:29 — What this reveals about relationships11:53 — The deeper psychological layer14:17 — How this pattern shows up in real life16:41 — Why most people miss this19:06 — The consequence of ignoring it21:30 — What actually changes things23:54 — The core takeaway26:25 — Outro___________________________Beyond the podcast I'm a men's mental health coach. I help you reprogram the patterns and belief systems that are sabotaging your power, peace, and love life. Ready to make some life changes? Book a free consultation today - https://calendly.com/anyashakh/discov...If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhSubscribe to my weekly newsletter: https://anyashakh.substack.com (Insights about men and women in your inbox every week)