132. The Short-Term Benefits and Long-Term Cost of People-Pleasing in Your Life and Leadership

Today I am speaking to my dear Sister Friends who have or do struggle with people-pleasing. You may not even know that you are a people-pleaser.   Tell me if this sounds familiar:  You are one of those really nice people who is seen as so helpful and kind.   It makes you feel good to make someone else happy, to brighten their day.   You try to seek and preserve harmony in your relationships, and you often put others before yourself.   People probably refer to you as someone who is reliable, someone they can count on…you are a “real team player”.   If someone needs something, you are there to lend a hand, almost always saying “yes” in response to a request or perceived need.   So far…this sounds pretty good… it probably works out pretty well for you and you are seen as a “nice” person, right?  People tend to like you…win, win!   Well….  Hold up.   It doesn’t stop there.  Is this life really all sunshine and roses, rainbows and unicorns?   Probably not.   Not only do you try to please people or gain their approval, but you feel anxious and guilty when you can’t.  You perseverate when you perceive that someone might be upset with you, and you fear the disapproval of others.  You absolutely hate conflict and do everything you can to avoid causing trouble.  To think that someone might be angry at you is downright disastrous…enough to make you want to throw up.     Today we are talking about some of the benefits you probably experience, at least in the short term, and more importantly, the long-term cost of being a people-pleaser.    Key Highlights: Signs and symptoms of people-pleasing Causes of people-pleasing Long-term cost of people-pleasing Implications on leadership How to stop people-pleasing   I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya   Episode Resources:   Episode #131: Two Proven and Powerful Tools to Decide What No Longer Belongs on Your “Should Do” List. Episode #112: Setting Boundaries and Saying "No" as a Busy Professional Woman.   Get all my free resources in one place: Click Here   5 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE 30-Minute Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme   2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community   3️⃣ TIME MANAGEMENT: Grab my FREE Time Audit Templates! It's your key to organizing and optimizing your time ➡︎ https://time-audit-tool-sign-up-94896.grwebsite.com/   4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to have better Work-Life BALANCE? Are you ready to up-level your leadership? Sign up for 1-on-1 Christian Life Coaching. It’s the accountability and guidance you need to make real progress ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/coaching    5️⃣CONTACT: Ask me a question or leave a comment about the show ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they’re meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"  If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss any episodes! And, if you’re feeling really generous, I’d be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone. RESOURCES: Manage your email inbox with this step-by-step tutorial:  GFL Email Inbox Management Mini-Course Time Management Makeover Workshop waitlist:  https://gracefilledleader.com/workshop Get all of the GFL FREE RESOURCES in ONE place:  https://gfl-free-resources.getresponsesite.com/   Click here to view our privacy policy.   This description may contain affiliate links, meaning I may get a commission at no cost to you if you click & purchase! Do you want to use the exact project management system I use to manage my time? Meistertask is the BEST system I have found to manage EVERYTHING   Do you love a beautiful paper planner, simple bible study, or journal?   Check out Horacio Printing (use coupon code GRACE15 at checkout to save 15%)   Do You want to get clear on what God is calling you to do?   Clarify Your Calling with Stef Gass   Do You want to start your own podcast?   Podcast Pro University   Do you want to take your podcast to the next level?   Podcast to Profit Mastermind