132: When the Tools Don’t Help You Feel Better or Make Progress

Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use. Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe after they discover their husband's pornography use. You've all heard about and have tried the tools – journaling, meditation, prayer, reading, etc. But what if you try those things and you don't actually feel any better? What if you're not making progress, despite using all of the tools that you've learned about. In this episode, I share with you exactly how to find closure and resolution as you're working on yourself and your marriage. Most people leave out one key step that actually helps them to feel better. So in this episode, I go deep into sharing what you can do to make the tools work for you.  For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.   Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.