EPISODE · Feb 10, 2026 · 19 MIN
132. Why I Couldn’t Stop Being the “Good Girl”
from Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach · host Marina Triner
In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of how my lifelong drive to be “the good girl” ruled my relationships, my nervous system, and even my sense of self. For most of my life, I played by the rules—always saying the right thing, doing the right thing, living up to everyone else’s expectations. But it wasn’t until I unexpectedly fell in love with someone society might label as "the wrong person" that everything cracked open. What followed was the most transformative, heart-opening journey of my life—one that taught me how to reclaim my truth, my voice, and the courage to live by my own rules. This story isn’t just about love—it’s about breaking generational patterns, healing the abandonment wound, and learning how to finally feel safe being your full, complex, imperfect self.If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t mess up, couldn’t ask for what you need, or couldn’t be too much, this episode is for you.https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heart Connect with me:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rootedFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/marina.y.t Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“Perfectionism doesn’t always look like a tidy house—it can look like never upsetting anyone.”“My whole life I was trying to stay safe by being sweet, quiet, and kind. And it was exhausting.”“The moment I broke the rules, I finally found myself.”“Being seen in your fullness isn’t just possible—it’s necessary.”somatic healing, nervous system regulation, perfectionism, anxious attachment, trauma healing, emotional healing, good girl conditioning, feminine healing, somatic journey, breaking the rules, healing abandonment, generational trauma, inner child healing, vulnerability, authentic relationships, self-worth healing, embodied self
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In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of how my lifelong drive to be “the good girl” ruled my relationships, my nervous system, and even my sense of self. For most of my life, I played by the rules—always saying the right thing, doing the right thing, living up to everyone else’s expectations. But it wasn’t until I unexpectedly fell in love with someone society might label as "the wrong person" that everything cracked open. What followed was the most transformative, heart-opening journey of my life—one that taught me how to reclaim my truth, my voice, and the courage to live by my own rules. This story isn’t just about love—it’s about breaking generational patterns, healing the abandonment wound, and learning how to finally feel safe being your full, complex, imperfect self.If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t mess up, couldn’t ask for what you need, or couldn’t be too much, this episode is for you.https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heart Connect with me:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rootedFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/marina.y.t Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“Perfectionism doesn’t always look like a tidy house—it can look like never upsetting anyone.”“My whole life I was trying to stay safe by being sweet, quiet, and kind. And it was exhausting.”“The moment I broke the rules, I finally found myself.”“Being seen in your fullness isn’t just possible—it’s necessary.”somatic healing, nervous system regulation, perfectionism, anxious attachment, trauma healing, emotional healing, good girl conditioning, feminine healing, somatic journey, breaking the rules, healing abandonment, generational trauma, inner child healing, vulnerability, authentic relationships, self-worth healing, embodied self
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