133: How to break the anxious avoidant cycle (without chasing HIM))

Grab here your SECURE WOMAN PROTOCOL to not freak out when he pulls away!   How to break the anxious avoidant cycle without chasing him ❤️‍🩹 In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant couples get stuck in the same painful push and pull cycle and how YOU can finally break it without begging for reassurance, overthinking every text, or losing yourself in the relationship If your partner pulls away, needs space, shuts down emotionally, or becomes distant and your brain instantly spirals into “Is he leaving me?” this episode will help you understand what’s really happening underneath your relationship anxiety. I'll break down how abandonment fears, anxious thoughts, emotional triggers, and nervous system reactions create the anxious avoidant cycle and why chasing usually pushes an avoidant partner even further away. You’ll learn how to self-soothe, challenge anxious thoughts, communicate your needs in a healthier way, and start becoming more securely attached instead of emotionally dependent on reassurance from your partner Perfect for anyone struggling with anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, overthinking, clinginess, avoidant partners, emotional dependency, or feeling constantly anxious when their partner needs space     xx🎙 with Jula,  your anxious to secure attachment coach   CHAPTER: 00:00 Taking Control of Your Emotions 01:09 How the Anxious Avoidant Cycle Starts (not what you THINK) 04:10 The MOST important part how YOU can interrupt the cycle 12:03 How to REFRAME your thoughts when triggered 12:37 How to feel calm when he pulls away   ON SALE: SECURE WOMAN PROTOCOL to not freak out when he pulls away!   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.     Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.