133: What Emily's Stillbirth Story Taught Me About Charging Through

Send Jen a Text MessageI came home from a retreat in Nashville with a lot of things on my mind. But one conversation wouldn't leave me alone.I met a woman named Emily — a birth worker, a loss mom — and she said something that stopped me cold. She said, "I chose to be a buffalo." I've lived in Buffalo my whole life. Buffaloes are everywhere I look. And somehow, I had never heard it this way.This episode is about that conversation, what it made me realize about grief, and the honest question I've been sitting with ever since: What if the way we're trying to get through the pain is actually keeping it in us longer?I don't say that to make you feel bad about how you've been surviving. Surviving after stillbirth is everything. But I do want to sit with you in this question, because it changed something in me — and I think it might do the same for you.This is a solo episode about facing grief head on (not alone), why managing your pain and actually feeling it are two very different things, and how the storm you've been running from might be the very thing keeping you in it.What you'll learn:The buffalo analogy and why it's the most honest picture of what grief-facing actually looks likeWhy running from your grief doesn't make it go away — it just makes it follow you undergroundHow grief shows up as snapping at your partner, low-grade numbness, guilt you can't trace, and that tight feeling in your chest at the grocery storeThe real difference between surviving your grief and actually moving through itWhy "being strong" and being brave are not the same thing — and which one actually helps you healWhat it means to charge into the storm with support — not just willpower and suffering aloneThe honest question to sit with this week: where in your life are you going around your grief instead of through it?Why facing your loss doesn't mean leaving your baby behind — it's actually one of the most honoring things you can doDownload my FREE "Guilt and Grief Release Journal" at navigatingbabyloss.com/journalWHERE TO FIND AND FOLLOW ME!Website-  https://www.navigatingbabyloss.comTik Tok-https://www.tiktok.com/@navigatingbabylossInstagram-https://www.instagram.com/navigatingbabyloss/You Tube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz-2MCEY5PRiF6p6VB_2lxA