136: BDSM for Spiritual Transcendence, Embodying Power, + Managing Public Projections with Colette Pervette

Professional dominatrix Colette Pervette joins me to look at BDSM as a microcosm of the macro culture + our lives, and how you can find transformation with the intentional embracing of power roles, toys, tools, scenes--whether that’s with a partner or with a professional dom. I’ve brought many experts on to talk about BDSM, but this episode is hands down my favorite. Probably because Colette has such a brilliant + academically inclined mind, as well as, someone who is deeply devoted to spirituality + alchemy. In this episode, you’ll hear: Colette’s journey of accessing her power through softness + quietness Self-conscious submissives and sub-conscious dominants Ways to integrate powerplay beyond the confines of the bedroom How you can start becoming the top or dominant in your life Weaving spirituality, symbolism + alchemy in a BDSM practice How a professional dominatrix designings scenes for clients Can BDSM re-traumatize wounds? Can BDSM heal deep wounds? Dispelling the misconceptions of submissives being "weak" or "powerless" Steps for couples to explore BDSM and play When do you hire a pro-domme to facilitate the scene? Qualities to look for or be cautious of when vetting a professional dom or dominatrix Challenges that come from being a public-facing figure teaching taboo topics Recommended books for learning more about powerplay and transcendence Learn from Dr. Cat and Colette in their upcoming couples retreat, Love + Leather She even answers some questions from our audience: How has your play evolved over the years? Have your desires changed? I feel I have a part of me that is dom, but I lack confidence. How do I explore more? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Colette is an educatrix. She is a professional dominatrix, where she has been practicing the art of intimacy and power exchange for over 18 years. She holds a PhD in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, Colette dispels misconceptions about kink, sexwork, and alternative sexuality. She leads an online course, MistressClass, where she teaches aspiring Dommes a he(art)tistic approach to Female Domination. WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Couples Retreat: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather BOOKS MENTIONED: Radical Ecstasy Existential Kink The Loving Dominant The Topping Book, The Bottoming Book Playing Well With Others The Dominance Playbook