#138: I’m Full Of Anger And Resentment. How Do I Let It Go?

Caller Tami's Question: "A couple of mths ago I'd responded to a podcast where you'd role played, mentioning that I felt the "betrayer" seemed they were portraying avoidant behavior likely to cause a betrayed to feel there's more secrecy. I am a huge proponent of the betrayed asking anything they want. It has helped me immensely (anxious type- I'll make up and fill holes if I don't know - which is usually worse than the truth!). Anyway, you'd asked about coming on - I'm completely open to it realize that. Also, a more pressing question for me - a yr out from discovery, is the pure hatred I harbor for "the other woman". My husband & I have done therapy, the marathon talks, tears, healing....a lot of work, we are even in the process of considering a vow renewal in July...however, I still harbor such a vengeful spirit and hatred for this "other person" and it makes me feel I'm still tied to the crisis, the past. How do you let that go when you have no positive regard to offset the ill will??? It's a lot to hold." Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events Radiant Dawn Women's Conference: https://radiantdawnconference.com Rising Son Men's Conference: https://risingsonconference.com Couple's Conference TBA We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!