#139: My Partner Is Showing Signs Of Recovery. Why Is There A Part Of Me That Doesn’t Like That?

Caller Emily's Question: "I just listened to episode #57 and episode #92 my question is: what do you do when your partner tells you “you’re just not attractive”.  I have been with my partner for a little over five years. About 2 years ago, I noticed something was “off” in our relationship. His complaint was “the sex we have isn’t intense/fulfilling enough” He used to tell me “I go out into public and see all these women who I am more attracted to” and then describes it as this visceral need to have sex with them. Intellectually I know that it’s okay to be attracted to others but my betrayal trauma brain has a hard time accepting this reality. How do I move through this? Is it possible to reconcile this? What if he is truly not attracted to me? Is that just his addictive parts speaking? s this an effect of his porn addiction? Is he blame-shifting? What is my role and my work to do in this situation so I can be healthy?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events Radiant Dawn Women's Conference: https://radiantdawnconference.com Rising Son Men's Conference: https://risingsonconference.com Couple's Conference TBA We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!