14. What it Means to Feel Your Feelings & Increase Self-Esteem With Amanda McKoy Flanagan

Spending a good chunk of her life avoiding feelings and actively numbing with alcohol and chaos, Amanda vulnerably shares how she’s finally found comfort in her emotions and has built trust with herself so she doesn’t have to run and hide anymore.We chat about her memoir, Trust Yourself to Be All In: Safe to Love and Let Go and how the principles she outlines there have allowed her to not only find meaning in her suffering, but to create an inseverable love for herself. How…? Hint: By welcoming all of her emotions with patience and self-compassion.If this lands for you, please send it to your friends and leave us a review on the top of our podcast page (it helps other women find it organically) 🙏🏻.Listen for:✨ Why we sometimes create chaos so we don’t have to be with our feelings✨ People pleasing in order to show others she was a good person (so that she could then believe it too)✨ How she continually chooses self-love over self-hate today✨ The reason sitting with whatever comes up is a superpower and how it will transform you as a partner, mother and overall woman✨ Why self-worth is the foundation for grieving healthfullyMENTIONED:Follow Amanda on IG: https://www.instagram.com/amandamckoyflanagan/Buy her book 📖 - Trust Yourself to Be All in: Safe to Love and Let GoRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotesLearn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others firsthttps://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.