140. Don’t Be So Understanding That You Settle For Less

What happens when being understanding starts keeping you stuck in a relationship that hurts you?In this podcast episode we’re discussing the limits of understanding someone you love. You can understand his childhood, his wounds, his fears, his attachment style, and even why he struggles to love you the way you need—and still decide that his behavior is not something you are willing to keep experiencing.Sometimes women become so good at seeing a man’s perspective that they stop honoring their own. They forgive too quickly, suppress their anger, excuse repeated behavior, and give unlimited access because they understand why he is the way he is.But understanding is not the same as excusing. Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. Compassion does not require continued access. And you can understand why someone hurt you without talking yourself out of being hurt.This episode explores emotional boundaries, relationship standards, accountability, forgiveness, anger, attachment, emotional neglect, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself in the name of being understanding.You don’t have to make him a bad person to admit that his behavior is hurting you. You don’t have to stop loving him to set a limit. And you don’t have to stop understanding him—you just have to understand yourself, too.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrFacebook: (9.9k followers) https://www.facebook.com/share/1NPUp2wNMQ/?mibextid=wwXIfrTikTok: (50.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)