144. Over-Responsibility: Why You Feel Exhausted by Other People's Emotions

If you're the person who always steps in when someone is struggling — who manages the energy in the room, talks people down, absorbs what others can't hold — this episode is going to name something you may never have had words for. Over-responsibility isn't about taking on too many tasks. It's the belief, wired in from childhood, that other people's emotional states are yours to fix. I share a personal story about my mum that cracked open a pattern I've been carrying my whole life, and break down what it actually costs you — and what it looks like to finally put it down.The Unburdened Heart Program: https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heartWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"As I sensed her overwhelm, I could feel myself shutting my own emotions down. My own fear just got locked up. My body constricted. I tightened. And I talked her through it for two hours.""It is not your job to regulate another person's emotions. And I say that with love — and also with the full weight of someone who has spent a lifetime doing exactly that.""The fear of abandonment is always going to be there. Your work is not to get rid of it. It's to increase your tolerance for that discomfort — and then behave differently.""Only a child can be abandoned. When you remember that in your mind, it's not enough — because your body is still feeling it. That's why this has to be somatic.""A life of feeling responsible for everybody's emotions is not just exhausting. It literally leads to disease. This is what over-responsibility does to a body over time."over responsibility, emotional responsibility, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, trauma healing, codependency healing, emotional immaturity, childhood emotional neglect, people pleasing, fear of abandonment, inner child healing, attachment healing, emotional exhaustion, burnout recovery, self trust, relational healing, embodiment, setting boundaries, deep within podcast, somatic coaching