145: Relationships and the Choice of Possibilities with Brendon Watt

Holly interviews Brendon Watt about his new book Relationship: Are You Sure You Want One. Interestingly, he wrote the book while being in a relationship with Simone Milasas and ended the relationship before the book came out. They navigated the publicity as a team, even though they were stepping out of their relationship. When asked how he could claim to be an expert on relationship when he was breaking his up, Brendon responds: “Becoming an expert really involves what you’re willing to say that other people won’t say.” Questions they explore are:What is another example of a time your life when you let the question create for you?What can I be today that I wasn’t before?What is the truth of “Me”?What am I going to “BE” today?What are the societal myths that keep you from living a full life and how can Access Consciousness help change those?What is your body telling you?Brendon explains how he lives each do to the fullest by following the edict of “This was me yesterday - but that doesn’t have to be me today.” Choosing for yourself never means choosing against someone or something else. After years of depression, He found Access Consciousness and changed his life by using the tools and processes that can change any area of your life, through four steps: question, choice, possibility, contribution. Access Consciousness empowers you to know what you already know.What feels heavy is a lie! The problem is that we’ve been trained to do what we’re told instead of going with this knowing. Four question he uses when analyzing what is the body saying:What is this?What do I do with it?Can I change it?How do I change it?Another is question is, “Is this mine?” So many times we feel other’s emotions and it’s important to determine if what we are feeling is actually our own emotions or someone else’s.True living comes from being in every moment and asking yourself “How can I make this greater?” The joy that comes from this and the courage that it takes to choose this way of livingHe discusses the idea of bravery for men, courage is the willingness to choose what’s best for you not based on the image of “being a man.” Be willing to be vulnerable. You do not have to give up your life to be in a relationship. Have a great love with yourself first and if a relationship is not adding to your life, the it isn’t right for you.Holly asks: “What are you looking to add to your life in 2020?”Brendon: “Everything! How do I be more so I can contribute more to the world so we have somewhere to live that’s happy!”Brendon leaves the listener with this thought for 2020: “Allow yourself to look at the one choice that you think you can’t have and allow yourself to have it in your world, even if you don’t choose it. Don’t push it away, just let it be in your life. “Drawing upon his transformation from a struggling tradesman and single dad to global speaker and CFO, Brendon facilitates classes and workshops all over the world, empowering others to know they are not wrong, that anything is possible and that they are only one choice away from change. Find Brendon every week on his podcast "One Choice from Change" on iTunes, on Amazon, and on the Access Consciousness® website.Find out more about Brendon at https://www.brendonwatt.com/. Get full access to Pathfinder at hollyduckworth.substack.com/subscribe