147 - The psychology of being attracted to the wrong people

Sick of ‘everyone turning out the same’? Could your whole dating life be explained by schema chemistry, schema traps and schema jigsaws? Welcome to schema chemistry school - the reason that you might have been attracting the same partner on repeat over the duration of your lifetime (and why those relationships always turn out the same!) This week Louise is joined by clinical psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Laura Williams as they dive into:  Schema therapy  What schema chemistry is (and why Louise is obsessed with it)  The concepts of surrendering, avoiding and counter attacking against schemas we develop in childhood The abandonment schema (and why it’s so prevalent in adult dating)  The schemas of mistrust/abuse, self-sacrifice, and defectiveness/shame, and how they manifest in relationships. Perfectionism How schema chemistry can lead to unrealistic fantasy bonding Advice for breaking cycles; and more. The pair also discuss how schema chemistry can relate to your relationship with yourself, not just others.  Daily Devotion™ is now live on the App Store & Google Play — unlock your healthiest, happiest, highest self with somatic daily wellness rituals, free for 7 days → [⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠REDEEM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠]  ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/⁠ ⁠💌⁠ Submit a question to the ⁠Healing Honeys Hotline⁠ ⁠💌⁠ ⁠TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories⁠ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: ⁠Daily Devotion⁠ ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: ⁠Therapy Shop⁠ ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: ⁠Waitlist Sign Up⁠ ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: ⁠Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices