15. Counter-Steering and Marriage Maintenance (you have to go the opposite direction to get where you want to go)

https://ruptureeverafter.com/@mechellewingle @winglemoNervous system regulation and what happens when a real rupture interrupts the podcast.Monte and Mechelle skipped a week. There was a rupture. And instead of scripting their way around it, they sit down and talk through it in real time — which is exactly how this episode begins. What unfolds is a wide-ranging conversation about Mother's Day, fear of failure, and why feelings always seem to show up three days late.Along the way, they explore how our earliest emotional wiring works like a neural network — and why you can't just bring in the tractors and fix it. From Newtonian thinking to an Einsteinian model of healing, this episode connects childhood wounds, nervous system regulation, and attachment patterns to the everyday moments that quietly unravel a relationship.If you've ever felt the rupture before you could name it, this one's for you.Part 1 of 2.In this episode:Why fear of failure shows up on Mother's Day (and every other high-stakes moment) How delayed emotions create ruptures days after the fact Neural networks, the Grand Canyon, and why you can't force healing Newtonian vs. Einsteinian thinking in relationships Parts work and what your nervous system learned before you knew it was learningThanks for Sharing PodcastThewholenessnetwork.Information is not intended as professional advice and is for entertainment only.Keywords: attachment patterns, nervous system regulation, childhood wounds, emotional wiring, neural pathways, fear of failure, rupture and repair, IFS/parts work, relationship healing, Rupture Ever After, The Wholeness Network.