153: Good Girl. Good Boy. Always Nice. Always Polite. But Where Do Their Real Feelings Go?

In this episode, Rosie and Roula dive deep into parenting, people pleasing, and the lifelong journey of authenticity. Inspired by a powerful clip from Dr. Gabor Maté, they unpack how childhood conditioning—like being told to “be a good girl” or “just be nice”—can strip kids of their true selves.Roula shares real stories about parenting her son and daughters, shifting from rigid rules to more authentic boundaries, and teaching kids that it’s okay to say no. Rosie reflects on how childhood praise shaped her own people-pleasing tendencies, and the two explore how parents can help kids honor their feelings without shame.If you’ve ever wondered:Am I raising a people pleaser?How do I balance boundaries with compassion?Why is it so hard to be authentic as an adult?…this conversation is for you.Keywords: parenting podcast, Gabor Maté parenting, authenticity, people pleasing, gentle parenting, setting boundaries, parenting tips, raising kids, motherhood, fatherhood, family dynamics--------------------☕️ Buy us a coffee!🎙️ Send us a voice message🛍️ Buy some Rosie and Roula merch!--------------------⭐️ Leave us a review▶️ Follow us on Instagram and TikTok🎞️ Subscribe to our YouTube channel--------------------🎧 Check out Roula's podcast🎧 Check out Rosie's podcast