153. What Secure Attachment Actually Looks Like with Dr. Rachel Greenberg

What does it actually look like to choose yourself — not as a way of closing off from love, but as the very foundation that makes real love possible? In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Greenberg, a psychologist and relationship expert who specialises in attachment healing, authentic connection, and embodied intimacy, helping individuals and couples create relationships rooted in emotional honesty and deep relational repair. We talk about the patterns that keep us stuck, what secure attachment to yourself and others really means in practice, what it looks like to be truly met in a relationship, and why the goal was never to stop needing connection — it was always to become someone who knows her needs matter.This one got personal. I shared one of my own triggers and got some of the most honest, grounded perspective I've been given. I think you're going to feel that as you listen.Connect with Dr. Rachel Greenberg:theworkwithdrrachel.comwww.instagram.com/heydrrachelWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"To be more willing to lose connection with someone else than to lose connection with yourself — that is how a woman chooses herself." — Dr. Rachel Greenberg"Healing is a life path. If we're choosing to live awake and aware, we will always be encountering new layers of what limits us from deeper intimacy with ourselves and other people." — Dr. Rachel Greenberg"The degree of trauma re-enactment goes down, and the opportunity for healing in relationship becomes expanded." — Dr. Rachel Greenberg"Emotional safety is the name of the game. Without emotional availability, emotional engagement, emotional responsiveness — the relationship will be insecure." — Dr. Rachel Greenberg"Anytime you're at either extreme — I'll give everything, or I don't need anything from anyone — there's some kind of trauma pattern operating." — Dr. Rachel Greenbergsomatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, attachment healing, secure attachment, inner child work, emotional regulation, relational healing, self trust, childhood wounds, relationship patterns, codependency healing, people pleasing, embodiment, intimacy, self love, choosing yourself, burnout recovery, survival mode, emotional safety